If you have experienced narcissistic abuse, you know how deeply confusing and destabilising it can be.
 

I didn't come to this work from a textbook. I came to it from my own life.

I've lived through narcissistic abuse — the manipulation, the love-bombing, the slow erosion of reality, and the quiet shame that follows. Layered over childhood trauma, it left me doubting my own memory, my own instincts, my own worth.

When the relationship finally ended, I didn't simply bounce back. I couldn't function. I couldn't work. The nervous system I'd spent years overriding had nothing left to give. I lost everything I had — and I made one of the hardest, most honest decisions of my life: I declared bankruptcy and began again from nothing.

Rock bottom turned out to be an unlikely teacher. From nothing, I had to rebuild more than my finances — I had to rebuild my sense of who I was. And what rebuilt me wasn't willpower or positive thinking. It was the deep, root-level work I now do with others: reaching the subconscious beliefs the abuse had written, settling a body stuck in survival, and slowly reclaiming the self that had been overridden.

I rebuilt from zero. I don't hide that — it's the very reason I can sit with a woman in her darkest moment and genuinely mean it when I tell her there's a way back. I've trained extensively since — [RTT, Hypnotherapy, Brainspotting, Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching, Positive Psychology, Autogenic Therapy] — but my deepest qualification is that I have walked the road I now guide others along.

Today I help women around the world do what I once believed impossible: understand what happened to them, calm a body that's been bracing for years, and rebuild a life — and a self — on their own terms. Not only to survive what they've been through, but to become more fully themselves because of it.